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Writer's pictureEvans Owusu

Ghosting: The Unheard Cry in Today's Relationships

A few years ago, if you had asked me what ghosting was, I probably would have assumed it had to do with communicating with, seeing, or sensing the presence of a real ghost—an apparition of a deceased person. I didn't truly understand what ghosting was until I had a personal experience with it, and I caught up on some millennia of terminology and meaning.

And how unpleasant it is to go through it.


In the digital age, where connections are made with a swipe and broken with a click, the phenomenon of ghosting has become an all-too-common experience. But what does it truly mean to be ghosted, or to ghost someone, and what does it reveal about our relationships and our society? Have you ever been ghosted, or have you taken the silent route with someone else? The emotional tapestry woven from such experiences is intricate, with threads of confusion, sadness, and sometimes even relief. Often, the perspective one adopts is deeply influenced by which side of the ghosting fence they find themselves on.

Historically, the term "ghost" conjured images of unseen spirits, evoking a sense of fear and the unknown. Today, however, "ghosting" has taken on a new, more personal meaning. It describes the act of abruptly cutting off communication with someone, leaving them grappling with unanswered questions and the echoing silence of a relationship that once was.

The motivations behind ghosting can be as varied as the relationships themselves. Yet, they can be broadly categorised into two primary groups: push and pull factors.

Push factors are the circumstances or characteristics that compel someone to distance themselves. This could be due to a toxic trait observed in a partner, an overwhelming situation, or the need for self-preservation.

In contrast,

Pull factors are the lures or opportunities that draw one away from their current scenario.

This might be the magnetic pull of a new romantic interest, the allure of a fresh start in a distant city, or the promise of a life-changing opportunity. Being ghosted can be a jarring experience, akin to an emotional rug being pulled out from under one's feet. The pain is magnified when the ghosting comes without warning, especially when the relationship seems to be on solid ground. The sudden silence, the unanswered texts, and the void left behind can be haunting.

In the realm of relationships, the poignant words from John 1:11 echo deeply:

"He came to His own, but His own did not receive Him."

This verse, emblematic of profound rejection, parallels the emotional turmoil of ghosting. When faced with such an experience, it's only human to grapple with emotions ranging from confusion to anger. Yet, it's vital to not let this deter you from forging new connections or maintaining trust in others. Before addressing someone who's ghosted you, clarity in intentions is key, and one must brace for all possible outcomes, including the continuation of silence. It's essential to remember that not every relationship, even friendships, is destined for permanence. The sting of an unresolved relationship can be daunting, but it's paramount to navigate it with compassion, steering clear of undue self-blame.

In navigating the complexities of contemporary relationships, championing open communication, understanding, and empathy is non-negotiable. In an era of transient connections, let us commit to nurturing genuine bonds.

Let this be our call to action: to rise above the pain of ghosting, to heal, and to relentlessly pursue authentic, compassionate connections in all our interactions. May the Lord Grant us wisdom, Amen!

By Evans, originally written on September 16, 2022.
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